Sunday, June 16, 2013

What fatherhood looks like

Father.
PapĂ­.
Daddy.
Dad. 

A loaded word...as it should be. 

It is a word that carries so much meaning, responsibility, weight. 

Some men carry it well...others surpass our expectations...I am married to a man that has given fatherhood a whole new meaning to me and my family.

My husband has always loved others unconditionally. Especially the kiddos in his life. I see the love he has for little K and his nieces and nephews. It is really special. He is there for all of them in a heart beat. Now, having been foster parents to two little girls (both toddlers), he has shown true selflessness. These little girls may never remember him again. They may never remember the man that spent ALL day with them while they lived with us. Working with them. Playing with them. Feeding them. Cleaning them, Loving them as his own.

To love a child that will only be with you a moment is something so special. It is painful to give your heart to a person (no matter the age) knowing that you will most likely never see them again. However, my husband doesn't let that stop him. He loves these kiddos from the moment they set foot in our little home and never stops loving them.

These kiddos come from difficult lives. As foster parents, they don't tell us much about the child's background, other than what is really pertinent to the child's health and wellbeing. So we often don't know too much about what their home life was really like. All we know is that we may only have a short period of time with this kiddos and need to make the most of it. My husband could very well be the father that these little girls have never had, and may never have again after they are unified with their families. 

Among the thousands of things he does all day, the time my husband spends with these girls (and our little K of course) he is giving them a father figure that is loving....being a gentleman always...yes, even if they are only 2 years old!...allowing them to feel the love and tenderness a father should have toward his daughter...a feeling of safety in his arms as he holds them.

My husband is not perfect. He is human. He is a human with the love of God living in him. And you can see the love of God in full force when you see him with all the little ladies in his life.

In watching him in this father role, my husband has shown me and reversed so many ideas of what I remember fatherhood when I was little. 

It isn't about making executive decisions all the time...it is about listening and seeing the needs of your family and taking their voices to heart and mind always.

It isn't only about disciplining. It is about being engaged in raising children daily and knowing them well enough to guide them in the right direction through different avenues...sometimes discipline, but more often through praise and affection.

It isn't about making sure to carve out quality time with your family...it is about spending 99% of your free time with your family...there is no need to "carve" it out...it just IS.

It is about being the ultimate [human/flesh] example of infinite, selfless, unconditional, boundless love.

Father looks like this...



To my husband, who I love so much...may God continue to give you the gift of fathering the children that come into our lives in such a beautiful way. Thank you for being a wonderful father to all the kiddos that come into our home. We love you!!!


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2 comments:

  1. What a beautiful post. Sounds like you are married to an incredible man. Love the photo!

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    1. Aww, Brittany! Thank you for your kind words. I did marry a great man. He is beyond what I was looking for :) He does a great job with our kiddos.

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